Posts Tagged ‘marriage counseling’

Taurus (& those with Taurus experience esspecially) please help!?

My husband wants a divorce randomly. I do not but he gave me hell about signing I did not so, why bother him more to make him say mean stuff to me? He has not signed the papers but is quietly calling and asks for advice, says nothing makes him happy, and does not want to do this but “it’s too late” I told him it’s a lie Becase he never agreed to marriage counseling with me or even to continue his court ordered anger management! He told me new years day “I’m not ready for a relationship” as if we have not been married for the last year! We were both looking foreward to moving to his state but I had to finish my school semester here (paid for), and he wanted to see his grandparents for the holidays and my mom was making serious problems on top of it all How could I not understand? I had even talked with him new years eve and gave a speech over the phone how much I miss him and love him can hardly wait to start a new less stressful life out of California where we struggle to get by and both of us hated it here (now where I’m stuck until I get to a different university). I want to be with him I can not stop thinking about him and it tortures me that he felt like he needed to leave like this! I found a poem he wrote about feeling lonely but I think about how I was always asking him if he was alright and to talk to me and he was always “good” or “okay” and did not speak up He’s also bipolar and would not take his medication but for some reason he was getting in control before he left! Because he was planning to leave me he decided to pull it together? He admits to being there for him and my calling to tell me what his friends treat him like crap. . . Less than a week ago emailed me about his fantasies masturbating (and not about anyone specific, so not me either!) said he’s using his porn etc to get off but said he’s getting rid of it and if I wanted it. I said no, admitted to not being able to hear such things yet during our divorce and I asked him why he’s even getting rid of his stuff but he has not responded to my casual or emails. I love him more than anything, and miss him terribly I’ve apologized and I’m already better in a lot of the ways that used to bother him. Were both in debt now since he decided to share only a little here and there. I’m I’m debt $ 400 for car repairs to my mom and he’s at least $ 58,000 in debt to the hospital for him trying to kill himself (if I had not found him and gave him secretly seizuring he’d be dead and if I had not been at the hospital when he was unconscious except for him getting financial aid and covering BOTH our classes he wouldve woke up just as depressed, though he had been he could not Provide and depressed over money, I did not listen the night before like IShouldve because I never saw someone so upset about something we had so little control of (had to just wait on the above and school, his 2nd day of class what the next day, dependent on him getting money!) I don ‘ t get him. What could it be he’s not telling me? Please help! Is there anyway to convince him I know how to be there for him? To realize all I’ve shouldered to stay with him? He said things I said in months before arguments made him upset and that I can not forgive him but I have! I do not understand why he’s stopped doing this and to tell me he’s depressed and can not talk with anyone else he likes talking to me and trusts me. That he’s lonely! (yeah-he’s divorcing me!) any level-headed advice is I prefer not to hear “move on” because I can not unless there’s hope I will be with him in the future. And how Am I even supposed to let go right now? What are my chances of getting back the love of my life? sounds tragic but all the romance and love what more intense, I remember it and I’m sad to think he does not. Help please and thank you sooooo much!

What should you do when your husband is financially irresponsible?

When my husband and I were dating he had financial trouble but he told me it was his debt ex-wife’s irresponsible spending that drove him deep into. After we married I discovered he does his fair share of irresponsible spending too. He works 60-80 hours a week at a job for reasonable pay but the money is spent as soon as it hits the bank account. He has even started working a 2nd job but he has a lame story about how he has to wait six months to be paid. I think he’s spending the money and not telling me. He’s now taking out loans we can not afford to pay. He buys TVs and video game equipment and cars and guns that we can not afford. He is always working or out goofing off with his friends and he does not spend any time with the family. When he is home he is rude to me and he rarely plays with the kids. I have tried to take a more active role in the finances but even when we work out a budget he does not stick to it. I am a stay-at-home mom with my own fair share of debt from a previous marriage so I can not open a bank account in my name and I am financially dependent on him. I have tried to find a job on my own to pay the bills but I can not find a job that will pay for child care for our 2 young kids and he is never home to watch them. I do not want to get a divorce because I still love him and I hope that someday he will be willing to go to marriage counseling and improve on these issues but I do not want him to drag me further into debt with him. I live in Texas legal separation so there is no. Is there any other way to protect myself financially without going so far as to get a divorce?

2 years marriage with 6m baby, should i file for divorce?

Please only Christian answs: My husband wants a divorce adamently & we have been separated for 3 months now. I have a baby 6mnth that i have been taking care of and providing four on my own. I do not believe in divorce, but without any legal action, i cannot make him start helping me out financially (there’s no such thing as a legal separation in my state). So, i do believe that with God anything is possible and i dont want to be the one to end our marriage, but the longer i wait, the more I’m getting screwed over by him, unless i file for divorce thre is nothing that states the debt he’s reponsible for and / or child support. I’m lost. I only want the best for my daughter, and i dont want to be living at my parents home the rest of my life because i cannot afford both a home and child care. And yet, how bout if he just need a more time to change. And yes, i have asked him about marriage counseling in the past to Which He says it will do us no good and refuses.

Husband thinks i need a psychiatrist?

I feel like our relationship is starting to hit rock bottom. He makes decisions without me, he’ll tell me what he wants and does it anyways, no matter what i say. He does not listen to me. I try saving money and spending it on crap he keeps, tries to show off to others what he bought but in reality we are in horrible debt. I tell him we need marriage counseling, and he replies with “How can someone who does not know us, help us?” He’d rather complain to his friend who’s been married for yrs, and who’s relationship is not so great with his wife. My husband says that need a psychiatrist, becaise I’m never happy. Do i need a psychiatrist? Or am i right, that my husband needs to grow up and start being responsible for his actions. . We are deeply in debt, he keeps spending money instead of paying bills. He expects his father to always bail us out. He tells me to get a job but, yet when i go do it, he says no i was kidding, do not wait get a job. I drop out of school in my program to get a job, because my grades were dropping from so much stress at home, financially and by not having his support. We have two kids and a new addition to the family Which is a puppy, who we Argued about getting because i did not want the responsibility right now, and he got it anyways. . He’s at work half of the day now I’m stuck with the puppy Which is a cutie, but i need some time for myself and i can not seem to get that right now. Last time i had time to myself which is 6 yrs ago.

Do you think God will not save a marriage if it for the best?

I am really hurt and think my husband may be leaving. My spouse left for work in a Neighboring city because of lack of work. I was thinking he was cheating on me, so I Confronted him with some of the things I found that were not concrete. He told me that he was depressed about his ongoing debt and legal problems that he had before we met. I have suggested that I help him pay off his debt or I pay the current bills while he concentrates on the debt. I have even suggested marriage counseling, financial counseling, or finding a job that’s not just OnCall. He already seems to have his mind set on a business venture he did not initially discuss me. He does not think we need debt counseling and does not want to involve me with his. I noticed some changes in his behavior, clothes, dry cleaning clothes, new barber shop visits, keeping off his phone calls and messages or deleted, and taking pictures of himself, etc. He calls to talk maybe once daily and recently stop calling me regularly and said he was depressed and trying to figure out his debt. He tok most of his clothes. He also does not know if he plans to come back if the work has not increased in this area and we would have to wait it out. I wondered if he started using drugs and he said “no”. When I ask about our marriage, he says he does not know what will happen if he has no success at a business deal but he still loves me. Do you think my marriage is over? Do you think he left me for another and just does not want to hurt me?

Do you think my marriage is over? HELP!!!?

My spouse left for work in a Neighboring city because of lack of work. I was thinking he was cheating on me, so I Confronted him with some of the things I found that were not concrete. He told me that he was depressed about his ongoing debt and legal problems that he had before we met. I have suggested that I help him pay off his debt or I pay the current bills while he concentrates on the debt. I have even suggested marriage counseling, financial counseling, or finding a job that’s not just OnCall. He already seems to have his mind set on a business venture he did not initially discuss me. He does not think we need debt counseling and does not want to involve me with his. I noticed some changes in his behavior, clothes, dry cleaning clothes, new barber shop visits, keeping off his phone calls and messages or deleted, and taking pictures of himself, etc. He calls to talk maybe once daily and recently stop calling me regularly and said he was depressed and trying to figure out his debt. He tok most of his clothes. He also does not know if he plans to come back if the work has not increased in this area and we would have to wait it out. I wondered if he started using drugs and he said “no”. When I ask about our marriage, he says he does not know what will happen if he has no success at a business deal but he still loves me. Do you think my marriage is over? Do you think he left me for another and just does not want to hurt me?

Should I take marriage counseling?

I’ve been married 4 years. asked my wife and I grew up in church, so we waited until marriage for sex Our marriage has been a nightmare for me right off the. She has absolutely no sexual drive, we were still virgins days into our marriage. She just did not like the feeling. During the first 2 years, she would basically say that it did not NEED it, hurt me a lot Which. She also would deny me respect on what I said, and never really address any need that I had which i conveyed to her. She only responded to what other ppl said she should do. I started wondering whether she really loved me or Whether she was just using me to get what she wanted out of life. Despite I paid for her schooling, paid her debt, and everything she ever asked. . . . she would not respond with the same. We got a dog a year ago. It hurt me profoundly to see the devotion and dedication she placed on the dog. I felt like less than I dog. After much depression, I started developing a panic disorder triggered by stress and depression. I do not know what to do. She doesn’t want a divorce even though I do not believe it’s for the right reasons. I feel that if I continue in this I’ll end up getting a heart attack in a couple more years. I’m very hurt. . . and I’m scared to consider counseling. I do not want to be put back into the same situation (we are currently separated). Any words of advice? We had a fight. I asked for a divorce. She has always been aware of what she is doing to me. She just chooses not to do anything feeling about how I’m.