Posts Tagged ‘stuff’

Taurus (& those with Taurus experience esspecially) please help!?

My husband wants a divorce randomly. I do not but he gave me hell about signing I did not so, why bother him more to make him say mean stuff to me? He has not signed the papers but is quietly calling and asks for advice, says nothing makes him happy, and does not want to do this but “it’s too late” I told him it’s a lie Becase he never agreed to marriage counseling with me or even to continue his court ordered anger management! He told me new years day “I’m not ready for a relationship” as if we have not been married for the last year! We were both looking foreward to moving to his state but I had to finish my school semester here (paid for), and he wanted to see his grandparents for the holidays and my mom was making serious problems on top of it all How could I not understand? I had even talked with him new years eve and gave a speech over the phone how much I miss him and love him can hardly wait to start a new less stressful life out of California where we struggle to get by and both of us hated it here (now where I’m stuck until I get to a different university). I want to be with him I can not stop thinking about him and it tortures me that he felt like he needed to leave like this! I found a poem he wrote about feeling lonely but I think about how I was always asking him if he was alright and to talk to me and he was always “good” or “okay” and did not speak up He’s also bipolar and would not take his medication but for some reason he was getting in control before he left! Because he was planning to leave me he decided to pull it together? He admits to being there for him and my calling to tell me what his friends treat him like crap. . . Less than a week ago emailed me about his fantasies masturbating (and not about anyone specific, so not me either!) said he’s using his porn etc to get off but said he’s getting rid of it and if I wanted it. I said no, admitted to not being able to hear such things yet during our divorce and I asked him why he’s even getting rid of his stuff but he has not responded to my casual or emails. I love him more than anything, and miss him terribly I’ve apologized and I’m already better in a lot of the ways that used to bother him. Were both in debt now since he decided to share only a little here and there. I’m I’m debt $ 400 for car repairs to my mom and he’s at least $ 58,000 in debt to the hospital for him trying to kill himself (if I had not found him and gave him secretly seizuring he’d be dead and if I had not been at the hospital when he was unconscious except for him getting financial aid and covering BOTH our classes he wouldve woke up just as depressed, though he had been he could not Provide and depressed over money, I did not listen the night before like IShouldve because I never saw someone so upset about something we had so little control of (had to just wait on the above and school, his 2nd day of class what the next day, dependent on him getting money!) I don ‘ t get him. What could it be he’s not telling me? Please help! Is there anyway to convince him I know how to be there for him? To realize all I’ve shouldered to stay with him? He said things I said in months before arguments made him upset and that I can not forgive him but I have! I do not understand why he’s stopped doing this and to tell me he’s depressed and can not talk with anyone else he likes talking to me and trusts me. That he’s lonely! (yeah-he’s divorcing me!) any level-headed advice is I prefer not to hear “move on” because I can not unless there’s hope I will be with him in the future. And how Am I even supposed to let go right now? What are my chances of getting back the love of my life? sounds tragic but all the romance and love what more intense, I remember it and I’m sad to think he does not. Help please and thank you sooooo much!

ugly marriage situation. what to do?

Been married almost 3 yrs, 2 mos ago split up. Wife left – sez its cause she could not stand me getting on her case about being irresponsible w / our finances (creating unnecessary debt, hiding bills – with no job), our family business (decided to drop out cuz I could not hold her hand through every “issue”), and rearing her teen daughter. Has since moved in with her dad, 90 miles away, and he literally helps her find ways to justify her crappy behavior. She makes agreements with me – now mostly over custody / visitation of our 2-yr old son – then finds excuses to break them if things are not working in her favor. ** We’ve spent 2 yrs already in family counseling, at my expense. ** I do love her but can not deal with the negligence. before she left i closed the joint accounts, but have been sending money for my son weekly. when we were together, she would not really discuss issues, but now she is quite explosive about them (and 90 miles away – coward)? where to go with this I is not perfect. . . and have lost my cool over this stuff. . and do not like it. My wife has apologized several times, but continues doing the same stuff. I think she’s got ADHD. she will not seek treatment. . Says she’s got other priorities. Wow! So many responses already. . . guess i should add. . . . We made a custody agreement w / a court mediator August 30 for rotating visitation, alternating a week at a time for both of us. That took work because she was bitching about having to pay for child care once she gets a job. She waited until the last day (9 days later) to fax the court with a dispute, Thus canceling its promotion to a court order. when i asked about why, now became her argument oh, i do not want my car to break down on the drive, and oh, it’s not stable for our child. she also refused to discuss any alternative. I filed for custody / visitation the next morning (basically asking for the same terms) but the hearing is like five weeks away. I am bugging out, really, cause i have been trying to complete my studies for the first year california law exam (next october 23) but all this other stuff is wrecking my concentration. i miss my son.

Co-signing a loan for girlfriend?

My girlfriend is stuck in a rut right now, the story goes that her ex had her co-sign for a bunch of stuff and then screwed her over with it, now there are creditors calling her, and she gets to crying and stuff because she cannot make the payments, however, I’ve given her phone numbers and websites to help legit credit counseling and debt-places, she keeps saying that she only has two options, file for bankruptcy or she knows this one person who can co-sign a loan and her get out of it quickly, she’s giving me clear hints that Im the person she’s referring to, without actually saying so, I’ve never co-signed for anyone before based on things my mom taught me about financial responsibilities, my credit is a low 800 I have toyed with the idea of ??co-signing, but I have a very bad feeling about actually doing so, I dont know what I would be risking, I still owe a little under half of my truck, buying my own house and GeneRally trying to make ends meet, what are your opinions? She doesn’t live with me, has a young boy, says that she would never screw me over like that, and that she would rather file bankruptcy than to have me co-sign and then something happens where she can not pay my things and go down the drain too, I believe her, but still I have a very bad feeling about what was in the risking and what I to loose. I believe she owes the total is about 20,000.